What are you doing to keep the vision alive in your own heart and mind of the loved one you lost? Finding a way to do so is a vitally important part of dealing with your loss, grief and bereavement because it helps lead you deeper into your healing.
Whatever way you choose to help you do this, know that its constant presence around you will serve to keep that connection vital and glowing in your heart, and offer a healing reassurance to your wounded soul.
For example, sitting on the phone table behind me in my office is the portrait taken of my daughter and I shortly after she arrived back in my life at the age of 19. Even though she’s gone I feel as though she remains, always watching my back (there for me) and encouraging the writing I do in her memory.
The proud and shining smile stretching almost ear to ear on my own daddy’s face, is marvelously counterpointed by the soft and glowing smile of utter love and belonging etched upon my daughter’s; as we lean on each other in the joy and profound contentment of having reconnected our lives in the light of that love.
Although completely unplanned for in the context of the photo, the near identical rings on our fingers speak constantly to me of the total bond of loving commitment we shared as father and daughter – a bond which was not only proven in life, but one which has also carried over for me beyond her death.
Although seeing this photo carries a powerful poignancy of regret that we can no longer share the warmth of our human touch, it brings me enormous peace and a healing calm of heart that we had the opportunity to do so in the first place.
I feel blessed to be able to keep my daughter’s vision alive in both heart and mind in this way, and am healed more each day from the wound of her loss by the beauty of its presence.
What are you doing to keep your vision alive – and find a deeper healing?
With Love and Understanding,
Ken Matthies
HeartSpun Posts from the Crucible of Experience
To learn more about healing your grief visit http://www.kenmatthies.com
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