The journey of your healing from loss, grief and bereavement will continue for you through a lifetime of learning – and I’m coming to understand that as a good thing – not something negative to drive me to further despair.
The process of healing from grief is designed to be a gradual one for us as human beings because we’re not physically, mentally or emotionally equipped to be able to deal with all of it at once – suffering a grievous loss one day and magically cured from its effects the very next day, month, or even year.
As painful as going through this process is, there’s a greater good at work for us in the length of time it takes. Just as you had to go through an escalating series of learning grades in school, college or university to achieve graduation, so it is with the process of healing from loss, grief and bereavement.
You recall how you used to come home from school each day and your parents would often ask “What did you learn today?” It’s the same thing with your healing process; only the question itself changes to ask “What’s helping you heal today?”
Just as your daily learning in school helped you to become more knowledgeable about and capable within the world you live in, so goes the daily learning about the process of healing from your loss, grief and bereavement in order to help you become more knowledgeable about and capable within the reality of the changed world you now live in.
Both processes achieve the same end – that of educating you to the things you need to know in order to progress through the path of learning you are on – and both bring you into a higher state of being (or healing) because of the daily knowledge gleaned from going through it.
There’s little question that going through the school of healing from loss, grief and bereavement is the toughest school on earth – yet the truth is that virtually everyone at some point in life will be faced with the necessity for enrolling in its learning.
Allow yourself to accept this simple truth and actively seek that daily knowledge about the process of healing from your loss, grief and bereavement – in whatever way and by whatever means bring you to it.
Then you too will be able to ask and answer the question of “What’s helping you heal today?”
With Love and Understanding,
Ken Matthies
HeartSpun Posts from the Crucible of Experience
To learn more about healing your grief visit http://www.kenmatthies.com
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